My mind have been wandering
to the year 2013, the start of a New Year and pondering over what kind of
resolutions shall I make.
I am utterly hopeless at
keeping resolutions! So I have decided that instead of making a yearlong
resolution, I will be writing down a list of resolutions and to see if I can do
them monthly. It is sort of a gentle ease into doing something and monthly
should a bit more achievable than a year, which everyone forget after 2 weeks!
Most of the resolutions I
want to make for myself mainly are to do with my mental health, I really want
to improve my outlook on life and finding ways to be positive and to think
about other people as I can be self absorbed when I am at a low point.
Positive news in a jar!
I saw this on someone’s Facebook
recently and I really liked this and I will be looking for a jar so I can do
this!
This is always a good way to record what positive and happy things that has happened to you and it will remind you one year later what you have achieved instead of feeling sorry for yourself or struggling to name a positive thing that has happened to you.
Exercise
I’m not really a gym person
and I find it hard to go to gyms as I tend to feel self conscious as also there
are moments where I have anxiety attacks and low points where I don’t want to
go out. I really want to do Pilates and Yoga again as they both are a form of
exercise that help with thinking and self control as well I can do them in flat
when I do not have the energy or the motivation to do something.
I will be looking into
courses around Wolverhampton also in the university.
I recently read a blog by
Rebecca Anne Withey who teaches Mindfulness Meditation-
http://www.thedancingphoenix.co.uk/blog
I found the blog quite
interesting and hope to attend one of her sessions one day. Having a Deaf
teacher can be quite beneficial for Deaf people as well those who have mental
health issues.
Expand your thinking with new experiences
I am going to try and push myself into trying
something new monthly such as a new food experience, or learning a new skill. I
hope by the end of 2013 I will have a degree, BSL NQV 3 and will be starting a
CTLLS course! (With some other courses too such as First Aid)
Lose other people’s opinions.
Stop worrying about trying to please everyone. As Bill Cosby says, “I
don’t know the key to success, but I know the key to failure is trying to
please everybody.”
Frankly who cares what you think! I don’t!
I do appreciate positive feedback and
criticism but if it is not positive then I do not care, as it will not help me
to learn from my mistakes.
I want to be comfortable and
learn to accept myself.
Decluttering
I often aim to TRY to be tidier! At times sleeping in a bombsite can be
depressing especially when I can’t find a thing!
Physical health
I really want to be healthier, not thinner! I have already started by
stopping having takeaway for myself; I now have them if I am with friends!
I also want to learn a new
habit of eating breakfast, as when I was a child, the taxi would come too early
and I would miss my breakfast as they would be cross if I wasn’t ready and I
would arrive at school far too early! Mum would put in a banana or an apple in
my bag to eat on the way to school and complain to the taxi company as well. I
didn’t really like cereal much and still don’t! So it can be difficult for me,
I cant really eat much breakfast products as they are mainly made from wheat
and can give me a tummy aches which isn’t a nice way to start the day!
So I’m going try to
start with fruit and making smoothies as well. I also want to eat better at
nights as I tend to over eat and when I am too depressed to make anything I
will eat any processed crap. I have started bulk-cooking proper homemade food
and am freezing it so when I am unable I can just thaw it out and eat something
healthy rather than a TV dinner.
I want to drink more
healthy as well which mean I will be trying to detox and drinking more water
and herbal teas rather than relying on coffee for a caffeine boost (which is
expensive!).
Appreciation/ gratitude
I have put my life at risk a few times and I
want to appreciate the life I have and have gratitude for what I do have- a
home, a family, good friends and so on. I want to learn how to show people that
I appreciate them by asking after them and saying thanks more often.
I do adore many people and am glad to call
them my friends and am happy they haven’t run away screaming when I am in a
destructive mood.
Finding a healthy outlet
When I
am down I tend to spend my money on rubbish and try to find something material
to amuse myself.
I want to get out of that habit and start on
doing things that benefit me more such as writing, reading, doing some work or
meeting a friend for a natter. Instead of keeping things inside and letting
them build up.
Write a not-to-do-list
This is interesting; this could be anything from no more buying shower
gels to not letting myself get stressed out.
Mental health
I am going to try to do things that are positive such as seeing a funny
film, reading an enjoyable book, meeting friends who are fun and will offer a
healthy way to have fun.
Try not to let negative
things bog me down such as disappointment, failure or broken promises. Try to
make them into a positive issue such as more time to finish a book or more time
to write and whatever else.
So there you go! My list and hopefully I will be able to do them all!
One thing I found that really helped me in 2012 was to have a weekend
away with the lovely ladies and I am looking forward to the next one in
January. This gives me something to be excited about and I always enjoy myself!
Enjoy your New Year’s Eve plans and try to face a new day in a positive
way! (i.e A hangover from a fabulous Night with friends!)
Fact: In Scotland, New Year is called Hogmanay and drinking whiskey is
compulsory (not really but it’s fun!)
